Comments on: When a choice isn’t “all about me”…. http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/ Conscious Living....Deliberate Living. Deciding what I want to strive for and then setting goals to get there... "But the dreamers of the day are dangerous people because they think their dreams into reality with eyes wide open." Thu, 20 Nov 2008 15:54:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: Living-Deliberately.com » Michelle Duggar in my town… http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-27770 Living-Deliberately.com » Michelle Duggar in my town… Mon, 29 Sep 2008 20:33:07 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-27770 [...] First, Woman Always. Actually, a good portion of my traffic is still for the keywords, “Kathryn Sansone” (the author of the book) and that title, and also the contrast I blogged about in Michelle [...] […] First, Woman Always. Actually, a good portion of my traffic is still for the keywords, “Kathryn Sansone” (the author of the book) and that title, and also the contrast I blogged about in Michelle […]

]]> By: Eve http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-25587 Eve Fri, 09 May 2008 23:26:51 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-25587 Ever since Oprah went on record on her TV show, saying Jesus is not God and there are many ways to get to Heaven,,she lost me. I think there are women out there who look up to her like a prophet and do what she says, buys what she says and just follow like sheep. She has too much influence on very young mothers and it is a little scary. We might not want to have as many children as the Duggers but they all seem well adjusted and happy so Mama must be doing something right. Ever since Oprah went on record on her TV show, saying Jesus is not God and there are many ways to get to Heaven,,she lost me. I think there are women out there who look up to her like a prophet and do what she says, buys what she says and just follow like sheep. She has too much influence on very young mothers and it is a little scary.
We might not want to have as many children as the Duggers but they all seem well adjusted and happy so Mama must be doing something right.

]]> By: kathryn http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-23712 kathryn Mon, 28 Jan 2008 01:27:21 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-23712 Excellent and thoughtful reviews here. I've enjoyed reading the comments from so many interesting women! Excellent and thoughtful reviews here. I’ve enjoyed reading the comments from so many interesting women!

]]> By: Living Deliberately » Stay-At-Home-Mom transitions to Work-At-Home-Mom with Mixed Results. http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-21263 Living Deliberately » Stay-At-Home-Mom transitions to Work-At-Home-Mom with Mixed Results. Sat, 15 Sep 2007 00:49:37 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-21263 [...] what happens when the posting slows down. In addition, my major keywords continue to be Kathryn Sansone and the posts I wrote whilst reviewing her book over a year ago. Blog-Wisdom says make my blog more about my most common keyword search but while I [...] […] what happens when the posting slows down. In addition, my major keywords continue to be Kathryn Sansone and the posts I wrote whilst reviewing her book over a year ago. Blog-Wisdom says make my blog more about my most common keyword search but while I […]

]]> By: Living Deliberately » An Alternative to Kathryn Sansone….. http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-20716 Living Deliberately » An Alternative to Kathryn Sansone….. Wed, 15 Aug 2007 23:56:41 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-20716 [...] “Women First, Family Always“, by Kathryn Sansone, book review part 1 and part 2. [...] […] “Women First, Family Always“, by Kathryn Sansone, book review part 1 and part 2. […]

]]> By: Living Deliberately » Comparisons http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-4081 Living Deliberately » Comparisons Thu, 26 Oct 2006 13:33:00 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-4081 [...] One thing I found interesting in the reaction to Woman First, Family Always, was the idea that she was being criticised for “being rich and putting her children in school”. I wonder if these people really read the book! Kathryn Sansone advocated much, much more than just using a schooling source than homeschooling, and really, that is so NOT the issue. I myself contrasted her with Michelle Duggar, not because I think the Duggars do it the “right” way but because she was her polar opposite in how time was spent and how priorities were arranged and yet here is a woman who appears every bit as satisfied and assurred in her role. She didn’t need to farm out her kids and over extend herself to the point of napping the bank teller line (a real story KS not only tells but recommends) to acheive it and I thought that was worth noting. [...] […] One thing I found interesting in the reaction to Woman First, Family Always, was the idea that she was being criticised for “being rich and putting her children in school”. I wonder if these people really read the book! Kathryn Sansone advocated much, much more than just using a schooling source than homeschooling, and really, that is so NOT the issue. I myself contrasted her with Michelle Duggar, not because I think the Duggars do it the “right” way but because she was her polar opposite in how time was spent and how priorities were arranged and yet here is a woman who appears every bit as satisfied and assurred in her role. She didn’t need to farm out her kids and over extend herself to the point of napping the bank teller line (a real story KS not only tells but recommends) to acheive it and I thought that was worth noting. […]

]]> By: Living Deliberately » Quantity versus Quality http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-3626 Living Deliberately » Quantity versus Quality Wed, 11 Oct 2006 23:40:43 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-3626 [...] Awhile back I read a book that dealt with the time we spend with/around/doing stuff for our children. Woman First, Family Always by Kathryn Sansone kinda pushed my buttons. There, all laid out in a shiny happy imagery (with an immaculate dye job and manicure), is an example of the “it’s all about quality” time kind of parenting. This pov seems to postulate that if you get a few choice moments with each child before the day is done, you’re doing a great job. They can have schedules so crammed a five year needs a palm pilot, they can spend the majority of their days having their needs met by everyone but their parent, but when the long day is over, if you get to sit for a few mintues or tuck them in or text message them how their day went, you’re doing okay. [...] […] Awhile back I read a book that dealt with the time we spend with/around/doing stuff for our children. Woman First, Family Always by Kathryn Sansone kinda pushed my buttons. There, all laid out in a shiny happy imagery (with an immaculate dye job and manicure), is an example of the “it’s all about quality” time kind of parenting. This pov seems to postulate that if you get a few choice moments with each child before the day is done, you’re doing a great job. They can have schedules so crammed a five year needs a palm pilot, they can spend the majority of their days having their needs met by everyone but their parent, but when the long day is over, if you get to sit for a few mintues or tuck them in or text message them how their day went, you’re doing okay. […]

]]> By: Cindy http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-137 Cindy Fri, 03 Feb 2006 21:36:39 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-137 One other thought, she tells a story about sending a few of the kids to subway with $9 (all the cash she had--suppossed to show they know what being financially challenged is like!?) and how cute it was that they shared the food and kept refilling the soft drink. Imagine a homeless mother dropping her kids off with the last money in her wallet and leaving them there. When she came back to retrieve them, the kids would be in child protective custody and she would be arrested for theft (refills aren't free) and child abdandonment. But I guess when you are wealthy and powerful, it is a cute story, when you are poor and desperate it is a crime. I hate this book. One other thought, she tells a story about sending a few of the kids to subway with $9 (all the cash she had–suppossed to show they know what being financially challenged is like!?) and how cute it was that they shared the food and kept refilling the soft drink.

Imagine a homeless mother dropping her kids off with the last money in her wallet and leaving them there. When she came back to retrieve them, the kids would be in child protective custody and she would be arrested for theft (refills aren’t free) and child abdandonment. But I guess when you are wealthy and powerful, it is a cute story, when you are poor and desperate it is a crime.

I hate this book.

]]> By: Laurie http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-136 Laurie Fri, 03 Feb 2006 19:01:38 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-136 And to think that I almost picked this book up at Sam's today. Thank God I saved my money. I am also a stay-at-home mom of two wonderful boys. 4 years and 21 mos. Thanks for your honesty and I would not recommend this book to anyone unless they needed some extra kindling for their fireplace. Totally unrealistic lifestyle and one that most women out there could not relate to. Happy mothering! And to think that I almost picked this book up at Sam’s today. Thank God I saved my money. I am also a stay-at-home mom of two wonderful boys. 4 years and 21 mos. Thanks for your honesty and I would not recommend this book to anyone unless they needed some extra kindling for their fireplace. Totally unrealistic lifestyle and one that most women out there could not relate to.
Happy mothering!

]]> By: Tia http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-134 Tia Fri, 03 Feb 2006 14:05:14 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2006/01/30/when-a-choice-isnt-all-about-me/#comment-134 Cindy, I had a feeling from the book that her lifestyle had to be close to what you describe. She simply didn't have enough hours in the day to do all that she was describing, with the multiple ages of her kids. She didn't mention sitters really...just that her older kids helped with carpool. And she has a section on "asking for help" but she makes it sound like the occassional quick manicure or moment to self in a week where there's been none. In the part about kids she talks about the value of "showing up" and how much value her kids put on them being at thier games. It was suposed to be a fun vision but my gut was saying, "well, how much other attention can they really get? Of course "showing up" is important!" And then contrasted with my own day, when "showing up" is just the tip of the iceberg of what I do. I also felt bad for anyone who was her friend. She didn't mention them by name but the ones she was talking about would have known who they were and I can't imagine would feel anything but betrayed. Thanks for your input! Cindy, I had a feeling from the book that her lifestyle had to be close to what you describe. She simply didn’t have enough hours in the day to do all that she was describing, with the multiple ages of her kids. She didn’t mention sitters really…just that her older kids helped with carpool. And she has a section on “asking for help” but she makes it sound like the occassional quick manicure or moment to self in a week where there’s been none.

In the part about kids she talks about the value of “showing up” and how much value her kids put on them being at thier games. It was suposed to be a fun vision but my gut was saying, “well, how much other attention can they really get? Of course “showing up” is important!” And then contrasted with my own day, when “showing up” is just the tip of the iceberg of what I do.

I also felt bad for anyone who was her friend. She didn’t mention them by name but the ones she was talking about would have known who they were and I can’t imagine would feel anything but betrayed.

Thanks for your input!

]]>