Comments on: How long do children need full-time mothering? http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/ Conscious Living....Deliberate Living. Deciding what I want to strive for and then setting goals to get there... "But the dreamers of the day are dangerous people because they think their dreams into reality with eyes wide open." Sat, 22 Nov 2008 01:39:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: gina http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/#comment-21354 gina Thu, 20 Sep 2007 20:13:47 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/#comment-21354 I meant to write "when Tayton is through middle school." I meant to write “when Tayton is through middle school.”

]]> By: gina http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/#comment-21353 gina Thu, 20 Sep 2007 20:11:04 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/#comment-21353 I hope to have the choice to be a stay home mom till Tayton(3) is in middle school. I hated coming home from school to an empty house when I was a kid- it was totally depressing. I remember feeling like no one cared if I even made it home from school. I know my mom did care, it's just how I felt at the time and I don't ever want my kids to feel that way. Tyler(11) hates it when he comes home and I'm not here- even for only five minutes! So they aren't left at home alone yet and that's okay with me. I hope to have the choice to be a stay home mom till Tayton(3) is in middle school. I hated coming home from school to an empty house when I was a kid- it was totally depressing. I remember feeling like no one cared if I even made it home from school. I know my mom did care, it’s just how I felt at the time and I don’t ever want my kids to feel that way. Tyler(11) hates it when he comes home and I’m not here- even for only five minutes! So they aren’t left at home alone yet and that’s okay with me.

]]> By: Susanna a.k.a. Cheap Like Me http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/#comment-21352 Susanna a.k.a. Cheap Like Me Thu, 20 Sep 2007 18:23:17 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/#comment-21352 Great question and great feedback. I am really close to my daughter (age 6) in a way I don't remember being with my own mom -- I hope it will continue. Personally, I was a very motivated worker when I was pregnant -- I knew we needed the income to buy time after she was born! And my priorities were easy ... work, sleep, eat, go for a walk ... that's it. Great question and great feedback. I am really close to my daughter (age 6) in a way I don’t remember being with my own mom — I hope it will continue.

Personally, I was a very motivated worker when I was pregnant — I knew we needed the income to buy time after she was born! And my priorities were easy … work, sleep, eat, go for a walk … that’s it.

]]> By: Tia http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/#comment-21349 Tia Thu, 20 Sep 2007 13:06:47 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/#comment-21349 Thanks for weighing in KMH; as you have older kids, I really appreciate your point of view! No one really knows the future of course, but if I imagine my life 10 years from now, I'm still very much "at home". I know I valued that when my mom was around when I was in high school and I want that for my own kids. With more time to do things in between certainly, but still here for all the touch-points they may want or need. Oldest ds says he wants to home-college (yikes!) so no one is going anywhere for quite some time :-). Still, when I look in the mirror, I'm reminded how quickly time passes and I know from experience how life can change radically in a moment. Staying current, relevant, and educated seems like a smart idea. Having interests other than children *all the time* also refreshes me and helps me be a better mom, provided it doesn't become just another pressure. I wasn't "refreshed" when I had babies... (in fact, that's a pretty exhausting time!) but seasons change. Thanks for weighing in KMH; as you have older kids, I really appreciate your point of view! No one really knows the future of course, but if I imagine my life 10 years from now, I’m still very much “at home”. I know I valued that when my mom was around when I was in high school and I want that for my own kids. With more time to do things in between certainly, but still here for all the touch-points they may want or need.

Oldest ds says he wants to home-college (yikes!) so no one is going anywhere for quite some time :-).

Still, when I look in the mirror, I’m reminded how quickly time passes and I know from experience how life can change radically in a moment. Staying current, relevant, and educated seems like a smart idea. Having interests other than children *all the time* also refreshes me and helps me be a better mom, provided it doesn’t become just another pressure. I wasn’t “refreshed” when I had babies… (in fact, that’s a pretty exhausting time!) but seasons change.

]]> By: KMH http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/#comment-21348 KMH Thu, 20 Sep 2007 12:16:10 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/#comment-21348 How to start . . . I have been a SAHM and a home schooling Mom for many years now. My oldest is almost 19 and has a full-time job. My youngest is 17 and will finish school in 3 months. They don't technically NEED me at home. They are both very capable young adults. However, they both want me at home. My daughter and I have an extremely close relationship. We love nothing better than to sit and read or sew in the same room or to be working in gardens together. She tells me all sorts of things (that I would never have shared with my mom). My son tells me each afternoon how thankful he is that I make him a nice lunch, have a snack ready, and make time to listen to him share about his day as an apprentice. They each have their own space, their own time, and their own ideas. They just still really like to know that Mom will be there where she has always been. I don't know what the future will look like or even should look like. We are forging new territory (or restoring old territory). Kim How to start . . . I have been a SAHM and a home schooling Mom for many years now. My oldest is almost 19 and has a full-time job. My youngest is 17 and will finish school in 3 months. They don’t technically NEED me at home. They are both very capable young adults.

However, they both want me at home. My daughter and I have an extremely close relationship. We love nothing better than to sit and read or sew in the same room or to be working in gardens together. She tells me all sorts of things (that I would never have shared with my mom). My son tells me each afternoon how thankful he is that I make him a nice lunch, have a snack ready, and make time to listen to him share about his day as an apprentice.

They each have their own space, their own time, and their own ideas. They just still really like to know that Mom will be there where she has always been. I don’t know what the future will look like or even should look like. We are forging new territory (or restoring old territory).

Kim

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]]> By: Tia http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/#comment-21342 Tia Thu, 20 Sep 2007 01:13:04 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/#comment-21342 Link away :-). Thanks for coming by! Link away :-). Thanks for coming by!

]]> By: mumsgather http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/#comment-21341 mumsgather Thu, 20 Sep 2007 01:05:49 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/2007/09/19/how-long-do-children-need-full-time-mothering/#comment-21341 Tia, Thank you for your feedback on my blog. I love your articles but its going to take me some time to sieve through them! Haha. Mind if I link you? Tia, Thank you for your feedback on my blog. I love your articles but its going to take me some time to sieve through them! Haha. Mind if I link you?

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