Comments on: Accessory. http://www.sixredheads.com/2008/07/24/accessory/ Conscious Living....Deliberate Living. Deciding what I want to strive for and then setting goals to get there... "But the dreamers of the day are dangerous people because they think their dreams into reality with eyes wide open." Sat, 22 Nov 2008 13:39:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: Ren http://www.sixredheads.com/2008/07/24/accessory/#comment-27192 Ren Thu, 14 Aug 2008 16:35:10 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/?p=972#comment-27192 I absolutely agree that as long as we accept this kind of behavior towards children, nothing changes. It is NOT acceptable to threaten, intimidate or hit those smaller than adults. Nor is it acceptable to stand by and idly watch it happen. Now how to help? That's the sticky part. Watching, intervening with offers of "Can I help you with those groceries, you look like you're having a rough day" or some other distraction. I've point blank said "You should be nicer to your kid" or "please don't hit your baby". It's a big, huge "it depends" but I am one that tends to speak up. It can be done in a way that is kind and truly helpful. CPS doesn't usually do much good. I don't buy the "everyone has different ideas of what is right and wrong" because a rapist probably has a different idea than I do also but that doesn't make his/her actions acceptable. Hitting a child is wrong. Threatening to knock their head off is WRONG. To the very core of my being I believe we need to protect the most vulnerable in society. Even if it's simply letting that child know, by speaking up, that the behavior not acceptable. I absolutely agree that as long as we accept this kind of behavior towards children, nothing changes. It is NOT acceptable to threaten, intimidate or hit those smaller than adults. Nor is it acceptable to stand by and idly watch it happen.

Now how to help? That’s the sticky part. Watching, intervening with offers of “Can I help you with those groceries, you look like you’re having a rough day” or some other distraction.

I’ve point blank said “You should be nicer to your kid” or “please don’t hit your baby”.

It’s a big, huge “it depends” but I am one that tends to speak up. It can be done in a way that is kind and truly helpful. CPS doesn’t usually do much good.

I don’t buy the “everyone has different ideas of what is right and wrong” because a rapist probably has a different idea than I do also but that doesn’t make his/her actions acceptable. Hitting a child is wrong. Threatening to knock their head off is WRONG. To the very core of my being I believe we need to protect the most vulnerable in society.

Even if it’s simply letting that child know, by speaking up, that the behavior not acceptable.

]]> By: Musing http://www.sixredheads.com/2008/07/24/accessory/#comment-26898 Musing Tue, 29 Jul 2008 01:03:25 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/?p=972#comment-26898 It breaks my heart to see children treated that way. I'm glad you told the lifeguards about her. And thanks for stopping by Blogtations. Long time no see! :) It breaks my heart to see children treated that way. I’m glad you told the lifeguards about her.

And thanks for stopping by Blogtations. Long time no see! :)

]]> By: Blondie http://www.sixredheads.com/2008/07/24/accessory/#comment-26864 Blondie Sun, 27 Jul 2008 19:51:08 +0000 http://www.sixredheads.com/?p=972#comment-26864 Having been on the receiving end of someone "helping," I can honestly say that type of "help" is not wanted. I lived a life of hell for 3 months while CPS investigated and decided that there weren't any problems after all. They tried to rip my family apart. They threatened to take my kids. And for what? Because someone tried to "help." They knew more than I did, apparently. After being on the receiving end, I wouldn't wish that kind of "help" on my worst enemy. We all have different ideas of what is right and what is wrong. We have all been raised in different environments. We should be mindful of our differences. Having been on the receiving end of someone “helping,” I can honestly say that type of “help” is not wanted. I lived a life of hell for 3 months while CPS investigated and decided that there weren’t any problems after all. They tried to rip my family apart. They threatened to take my kids. And for what? Because someone tried to “help.” They knew more than I did, apparently. After being on the receiving end, I wouldn’t wish that kind of “help” on my worst enemy. We all have different ideas of what is right and what is wrong. We have all been raised in different environments. We should be mindful of our differences.

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